OK This is a question for you @Mama Bear
Hoping you can help with info, answers, explanation or anything that sets hubby on the right path. So i might ramble a bit/lot LOL first is how it all kicked off just after 4pm UK time.
We had gone out for a few drinks then taxi up to a new place for us for a meal. A date meal kinda thing First in a very long time.
Got there and got a drink. Sat opposite the bar but hubby was not happy Said something felt off. So we moved to the side of the fireplace further away. It continued he still felt off. Was twitchy and thought a resident ghost wanted to talk. But was pushy to the point of being annoying.
He went out for a smoke, but when he came back in What he thought was resident was not. There was a funeral wake in the room to the right of the bar and whoever's funeral it was for wanted him to tell certain women in that room what they thought of them.
We had to leave after that one drink with no food. As whoever it was would not back off or take no for an answer.
Disrespectful and pushy beyond belief. I was fuming as it was the first time in ages we had decided to go out for a meal like this. Semi dressed up and looking forward to it. .
Will be a while before he has the confidence to do that again. ANYWHERE.
This kind of thing drives him insane because he still cannot stop them from getting into his head. He does not know how to stop them when out of our home. Even when at home it can take me to get angry and kick them out when not wanted at that time. Like tonight, i had already said no Not dealing with any of this tonight. I am already pissed off from earlier.
Then his gran came to chat and told him. ""The cards Your cards at the side of you. King and Queen"" He has tarot cards i gave him. Nope not them. Cards further back So he fished about on the shelf but further back behind him. He found my pack of playing cards. 2 sets in the box from the 1977 silver jubilee of Queen Elizabeth 2nd and the backs. Other pack has Prince Philip on the back. Hubby did not even know they were there. But told me The king and Queen. Still confused with it all and now i am getting past the stage of wanting to hear or know anymore
Well it carried on and i went outside for a smoke, yelling as i went ""NO NO NO I said NO not dealing with any of this tonight. I said as we walked home i did NOT want to hear about any of it.
He then started saying "" Sorry Sorry"" Over and over. Seems his gran realised i was not happy about dealing with any thing like this tonight and was apologising, which i did except.
Then as she left she told him"" Pearl. Friend. Cards."" I just looked at him and asked ""Which friend"" Then it clicked. So does she means my friend with THE cards as in Bernadette and the Ark cards. What am i supposed to ask her.""
Well it seems @Mama Bear
you have the answers to what he needs to know. Yea i am now thinking REALLY. I know what he needs to learn, but obviously there is something he needs to know.
Maybe time to book that reading i have been thinking about. For both of us. Looks like the new laptop i have been thinking about can wait a while longer.
I know what i need right now though. A damn drink reaching for the ""Jack n Coke.