Trish Telesco
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- Feb 25, 2021
I've seen a lot of posts lately about moms, mother-in-laws, being a mom, etc. It's a big topic, but something is in the air. Figure this is a good place we can talk about being a mother, our feelings towards our moms, good / bad experiences with the MIL, and people who "mother" you LOL.
Here's mine for today:
This is a rather mundane rant, but it bothers me spiritually too. I've been a grandmother for 2.5 years now. I love it, but struggle when the DOL gets lazy. For example, the other day I noticed the GD tilting her head and moving toward the bathroom door. I asked P if she wanted to go potty. She shook her head yes and reached for the door. Mom says, "we're pausing potty training" with disdain. I looked at her and said in an upbeat way, "she wants to try, what's the harm?" She knew what to do, didn't mind the adult seat, flushed, and washed her hands...no big deal. I am now the "bad guy" because I recognize signals from the GD that mom ignores. Ok, I have a little psychic twinkle on my side but this is just one of dozens of teachable moments all of which play out the same.
I realize I have to respect boundaries, but my spirit aches for this child. Most of her education thus far has been TV, and for a long while non-verbal cartoons. Then they wonder why she's not speaking much yet. I am fortunate in that I can see what she's saying in her eyes, or she'll just grab my hand and take me where she wants me to be. I don't see this behavior with her mom, and I know it makes my son sad. That child is the only real joy he has in his life.
I think about magic, and feel it may be intrusive. Wondering about making her some type of communication charm to boost the signal to other people ... what do you guys think?
Here's mine for today:
This is a rather mundane rant, but it bothers me spiritually too. I've been a grandmother for 2.5 years now. I love it, but struggle when the DOL gets lazy. For example, the other day I noticed the GD tilting her head and moving toward the bathroom door. I asked P if she wanted to go potty. She shook her head yes and reached for the door. Mom says, "we're pausing potty training" with disdain. I looked at her and said in an upbeat way, "she wants to try, what's the harm?" She knew what to do, didn't mind the adult seat, flushed, and washed her hands...no big deal. I am now the "bad guy" because I recognize signals from the GD that mom ignores. Ok, I have a little psychic twinkle on my side but this is just one of dozens of teachable moments all of which play out the same.
I realize I have to respect boundaries, but my spirit aches for this child. Most of her education thus far has been TV, and for a long while non-verbal cartoons. Then they wonder why she's not speaking much yet. I am fortunate in that I can see what she's saying in her eyes, or she'll just grab my hand and take me where she wants me to be. I don't see this behavior with her mom, and I know it makes my son sad. That child is the only real joy he has in his life.
I think about magic, and feel it may be intrusive. Wondering about making her some type of communication charm to boost the signal to other people ... what do you guys think?